Speak to me people:

MissPinkKate - 2005-09-26 14:05:48
I like the part where by reading your entry, I automatically agree with it. heh.
Lani - 2005-09-26 14:11:33
You *don't* know me and I still agree with everything you said. Entirely.
razor-vixen - 2005-09-26 14:15:31
Hey, when you know, you know. A long engagement is not always necessary. Just do what makes the two of you happy.
MAK - 2005-09-26 14:21:05
I totally agree with you. Anyone who disagrees is a big fat doo doo head
But seriously, I am 25 and to-be-wed when I am 26. All of my brothers and sisters got married in the 24-27 range. I got engaged quickly for some people's standards (9 months) but we will be together for 2-ish years when we get married, which I think is beyond acceptable/enough time.
It does come from out of no where and you will find your love when and where you least expect it. I always expected clashing cymbols and angels singing from the first date, and I would just "know". But the love of my life ended up walking quietly into my life, took up residence in my soul, and it was then that I realized that we are meant to be.
No choirs of angels and a star overhead. Just him walking up next to me, holding my hand, and me saying "yes, I am keeping this one".
chickie-legs - 2005-09-26 14:31:10
exactly. In my case, it wasn't a choir of angels, but just one Angel. yes, that was extremely unnecessary, but true. He is my Angel, dammit!
your siiissstttoooorrrr - 2005-09-26 15:22:51
Hey, do whatever you want. It's your life not anyone else's... and I totally agree with whatever you want to do as long as I don't have to wear a dress... by you reading this comment, you have automatically agreed that I don't have to wear a dress. Thank you!! I love you!!
Angel - 2005-09-26 15:52:21
You have to wear a dress....
chickie-legs - 2005-09-26 15:57:21
I'm sorry Aim, but I'm not letting my maid of honor wear track pants... how about a skort?
Malthus - 2005-09-26 16:06:55
Go for it, dude.
cloudy - 2005-09-26 16:21:19
sounds right. feels right. It's right. Go for it, dude!
xquzme - 2005-09-26 16:21:53
I have been reading you since I started on DLand (in fact, you were #2 on my BList behind Judd) -- over a year? You have always struck me as a very mature, "together" individual, (also funny and clever as hell), and, in fact, I was surprised to hear you are 26. So F the naysayers, honey. You and Angel sound ready, so I say go for it. But your seeeesssstooooorrrr really should wear pink taffeta. (At least make her try one on for S&G!) Good luck, good love.
Aim - 2005-09-26 16:22:10
dangit... it was worth a try... :0)
Liz - 2005-09-26 16:33:21
I agree with you. Do you like nougat & caramel or just straight up chocolate?
Anonymous Coward - 2005-09-26 17:11:29
just wanted to point out some stuff. a) while yes, newer generations have had to take on greater responsibility faster, more marriges have ended than ever. b) overstating the obvious (about how happy you are now) is a sign that you are trying to convince yourself, according to those people with PHDs. c) your wanting people to agree with you is a sign of the same thing. see b). d) im a coward. and perhaps not so anonymous as i think.
chickie-legs - 2005-09-26 17:12:22
not much of a nougat fan. Or Nugent, for that matter. That dude is crazy. But I fancy more of the godiva, or butterfinger, or whoppers, or reese's..or...
Jett - 2005-09-26 17:14:05
Girl, you are more than mature enough to get married and know when "it" is time. I met my husband (who was a rebound from a 5-year relationship that ended a month prior) at a time when I was in absolutely no mind to look for someone new. I just turned 21 (and he was 20). We hit it off like crazy - he is the male equivalent of me - and were talking marriage after one month of knowing each other/dating. The only reason we waited three years to get married was because 1) it was almost 2 years before we were "officially" engaged (read: had a ring on the finger) because we waited until we were a little more fiancially stable, and 2) because I lived in Ohio and he lived in South Carolina. We finished school/started careers, and then hooked up for good. Despite all of that, I couldn't ask for anyone better. I KNEW it was right. It's true; you can't explain it, and I had the same skepticism that you did in the past, but it's hard to deny, isn't it? I think you need to follow your heart on this one. Whether you get married quickly or take your time, all that matters is that you "know". Too bad they don't make chocolate wedding rings that last....
31 year married person - 2005-09-26 17:14:53
I think to suddenly get on a plane to Vegas and get married at the Little Wedding Chapel with Elvis singing in the background would be the hoots...also, save me a ton of money. If you are happy and think you will be at least 51% of the time with Angel, whom I like a lot, then you have my blessing as well. Not that you need it.
34 year old perpetual bachelor.... - 2005-09-26 17:44:46
Uhm..... hey Chickie of the Legs, if your looking at houses, thinking of making babies and forcing people to buy you chocolate, then it's probably that time. Don't wait until your 34 years old, bald, living in a crappy apartment, working at a crappy job, without any prospects or future to look forward too and have successfully alienated all the women in your life who you would have even thought of marrying ....... hmmm.... what was I talking about again?
Oh yeah......

Seriously, and not that my opinion is important to you or your life, but if your in love and want to make babies with the fella and can see yourself not wanting to run away from him after a year of living together in Holy Matrimony, then get married. Be happy. Become a wife and a mother and a grandmother. Become Mrs. Chickie Angel. Or Angels Chickie. Or I guess you could use your real names, you know, whatever.

If I had someone who made me feel anywhere near that and who felt the same way for me, then I would.

So do I get to come to the wedding so you can hook me up with a bridesmaid? Oh nevermind. Bridesmaids scare me. The whole poofy dress thing ya know?

Well, I didn't take up near as much space on your comment board as I wanted too, but I guess this will do. We'll see ya, Mrs. Beth...
chickie-legs - 2005-09-26 17:45:19
thanks dad..that definitely means a lot to me. If I can get Angel on a plane to Vegas, you never know...And 'anonymous coward', I do know who you are. And I disagree with what you said. I am not trying to convince myself of anything. As you know, it is in my nature to want my friend's support. I think that is natural. I just wish people saw things the way I do. And apparently more people do than I thought. Also I don't think I'm 'overstating the obvious'. Now that I DO finally feel this way, legitimatelly, it is not over stating. It is just wanting to express how happy I am. Just like in the movies and those sappy love songs. They were written for a reason.
Ginger - 2005-09-26 17:49:42
My husband and I pretty much knew at around that 4 month period. AND we didn't even know each other for 2 years like you have. The key here is that you BOTH know and that's all that matters.
Dr. Hardcrab - 2005-09-26 18:50:01
Ms. Beffers: It is true that "you will know when it's right." Sounds like you know. I have been married for 22 years now and when my wife and I first met, we were exact opposites. We DID wait 2 years before we decided to take the plunge and all of HER friends said it wouldn't work. In fact, they all had bets on how long it would last. The longest guess was 2 years. Most of them are now divorced!! I guess we showed them! Do what your heart tells you and you can't go wrong. Oh, and send me your address so I can send you the chocolate... ;-]
Bill - 2005-09-26 23:18:25
Not that you need my support, but you've got it! :-) (I am sure you'll sleep better now!)

You've mentioned that you known each other for two years, and been dating 4 months... Did it take him that long to wear you down? If so, persistence pays!
me again - 2005-09-27 09:38:00
GO FOR THE VEGAS IDEA!!! That's the best idea I've ever heard!!!
LJ - 2005-09-27 12:08:52
I legally agree with everything. 26 is not too young. 31 is not too old for a 26 year old. Four months is a short time, but T and I got engaged at 7 months and at 4 months we felt pretty sure of our direction. You Go Girl. My one big peice of advice it to get pre-marital councelling. This is a sure way to bring undiscussed issues to the forefront - and that can only be healthy! Blessings - LJ
Anonomous Mom - 2005-09-27 12:13:58
Well, How about an Atlantic City Wedding THIS weekend? AND, your father and I knew each other 1 year and 1 month...need to keep the facts straight. I can't wait to have Angel in the family and have more grandbabies!!!!!!!!
Dave - 2005-09-27 16:44:21
I agree
Edgy'N'Stuff - 2005-09-28 08:36:59
Hey Bethie... 'member me? You're getting married? *sniff* Email me!!!
YouJustKnowHole - 2005-09-29 01:28:40
Damn baby, I don't have any idea exactly what the hell yer talkin' about.
Ha. Hopin' you're as awesome as you sound sweets.
Gravis - 2005-09-29 15:54:04
why is it that people think getting married in los vegas is a good idea? not just for you but in general. vegas sucks... it's trashy city know for self-indulgence, gambling and hookers. how romantic.
ricky - 2005-09-30 15:56:04
You mean the text on the site?
Laura - 2005-10-05 00:17:57
Follow your heart, chickie.

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